I’m thinking about making this the second in a series about my observations about the differences between men and women. I think it just might make me famous if it turns out I’m right.
First of all, I need to give a shout out to my dear (probably one of my dearest) friend Kollin, who helped me develop this theory. Or at least he listened while I ranted it out. He’s such a good listener.
Myth: All women are complicated.
Yes, you heard me I said it…myth. I would like to present myself as the proof to this statement. I like to think of myself as a pretty open book when it comes relationships. If I’m not interested, I’ll either let you know or distance myself till he gets the idea (yes I know this isn’t the nicest or most perfect option, but I really hate confrontation, and this is effective for getting the message across.) Now, I can be mysterious when I want to be, but that’s usually a flirting technique. I still like to think that when I’m “mysterious” I’m pretty straight forward.
Myth: All men are easy to understand.
I just heard the outcry of men all around the world who read that statement and are offended by my implication. “No way! Men are so easy to get!” XXXXXX Wrong answer. Thanks so much, please try again. Yes, I will grant you that most men are pretty straight forward, but this is certainly not true about all of them. And it seems to me that I’m pretty good and pickin’ the ones who are complicated. No “relationship” I’ve had has been easy going. Period. And it’s always the guy who makes things weird.
So, that being said, here is the theory I want to present: There must be one person in a relationship who is complicated. It may be the woman, it may be the man. But relationships are not meant to be easy. Perhaps if there was not complication, then things would be boring. Who knows?
I do know this: I almost wish I was the complicated one. I think if I went after simpler guys it would save me a lot of heartache. Relating back to my last note in this “series,” women take things more seriously.
I could be just writing a lot of fluff here. Actually, I get the feeling that I am. I do know this: my conclusion here is to be wary of believing those myths about men and women. I think that’s what makes relationships so difficult is that we are all so ready to jump into those myths and believe them, that we have a hard time of seeing things as they really are. Take things in stride; go with the flow; breathe in, breathe out; take one day at a time (wow, could I have fitted one more cliche into that string?)
Oh yes, and communicate. That saves heartache too. (Does that sound like a lead in to a new note to you, cause it does to me)
